You don’t want to feel like you’re down and out all the time, but maybe it seems that’s how it’s meant to be. That’s not the truth about anyone – including you. To pick yourself back up and get your mindset back on track, you need to believe in yourself. Start by eliminating these four super-problematic self-talk feedback loops.
Self-confidence carries you through life with your head held high. But developing it? That isn’t always easy, especially when life gets tough. It’s way too easy to turn your frustrating inward and get stuck in negative thought patterns versus moving forward. In this post, we’ll identify common confidence misconceptions and show you how to regain your emotional footing. You ARE worth it!
Don’t Fall for These Self-Confidence Destroying Ideas.
Staying Inside of Your Comfort Zone
Comfort zones are warm, fuzzy, and familiar, but they can also trap you and prevent you from achieving personal growth. You can change the borders over time by gently pushing at the edges by encountering the unfamiliar or even just slightly uncomfortable. Sure, it can be scary — but you’ll definitely stay stuck in the same place if you don’t at least try. Don’t let those default patterns prevent you from moving forward just because you’re anxious. Stay anxious and do it anyway. Do something new and unfamiliar every so often and you’ll build confidence along the way.
“My Body Will Take Care of Itself”
Lounging around the house after work might be your default mode. There’s a big problem with this mentality, though. Exercise floods your body with feel-good chemicals (like serotonin and dopamine). Plus, it’s required if you want to stay healthy and in shape, too. Implement exercise into your regular routine to gain more “steam” and motivation for moving forward.
Good food is also a crucial component of a healthy lifestyle. Eating fast food, microwave meals and ramen forever will wreak havoc on your body. You can eat healthy meals on a budget if you put a little work into preparing your own food. It’s actually cheaper that way, too!
Your body also needs a proper amount of rest to function. Six to eight consecutive hours of sleep per night is what you should aim for. All-nighters and dysfunctional sleep cycles won’t cut it in the long run.
Struggling Is Bad
In order to grow and learn, you need to consistently work on overcoming new challenges. You should tackle whatever difficult tasks life throws at you. You may fail along the way, but failure is the best teacher we have. Don’t shy away from something because it seems too hard at the time. You’ll never know what you’re capable of if you don’t test yourself.
Faking It until You Make It Is Bad
The truth is that you’re going to have to pretend you enjoy something during your life. In an ideal world, we would perfectly aligned and happy with all of our choices. That kind of personal alignment only happens when you’re passionate about something, and you can’t be passionate about everything in life.
“Fake it until you make it” is a strategy that works. Telling yourself “I can do this,” even when you feel like you can’t, reinforces the idea that you CAN to the brain. It forces you to put up with the realities of life without letting them get you down. Everyone else is feigning that they enjoy working eight-hour shifts, so why aren’t you?
Your confidence is what allows you to accomplish what you need to. The success you achieve in your life is based on your ability to roll with the punches and keep going. So ditch the idea that you can’t do anything and get it done!
~Here’s to Your Success!